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Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more. Read this article Keywords: spiritual...
Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

Tap into feelings, needs and requests for greater self connection with the six steps in this worksheet. Read this exercise Keywords: Self Empathy Self Connection practice Trainer Tip exercises Jim and Jori Manske Jim Manske Jori Manske
Four Choices For Responding To Indirect Criticism Or Judgement

However indirectly expressed, any judgement or criticism is about the person's own thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests.This awareness can help you take people's comments less personally, and give you options: silent self-empathy, standing in your truth, contact and curiosity, and honest expression Read this article Keywords: criticism judgement practice passive aggression conflict LaShelle...
Somatic-Based Empathy

Use this interactive empathy exercise to track the relationship and shifting of body sensations, feelings and needs as you note them out loud. Read this practice exercise Keywords: empathy somatic Eric Bowers
Exercise On Self Responsibility

Self responsibility is owning what's yours. It involves identifying your observations, evaluations, feelings, longings, and more. When we identify what's truly ours we are unlikely to mistake it as coming from outside of us. Self responsibility is not self blame. Without self responsibility, we project, blame and judge. Self-responsibility is central to clarity and full self-awareness. This...
How To Interrupt Gossip

Reflect on a time when you were either expressing gossip or participating passively. What feelings and needs were up for you at the time? How might you have interrupted the gossip with connection? When interrupting gossip it can take a few rounds of empathy and honest expression to bridge understanding, and create a space in which mutual care and curiosity arises. Read on for an example. Read...
Blame, Responsibility, And Care

One NVC principle is "stimulus vs cause" - our may be the stimulus but never the cause of another's feelings. When we're upset this principle can help us express pain without blame. However, when others are upset it's easy to slip into blaming them using this principle. Instead, we can hear their pain with care and heartfelt mourning - without guilt nor defensiveness, and whether or not we...
Healing And Repair After A Triggering Comment

How to get past the sting of a painful comment? Get empathy from self or another. Then connect with the commenter's feelings and needs. The more you can do this the less personally you may take it. Then work together on specific, do-able, authentic agreement about doing something differently next time, the kind that will enable you both to shift out of reactivity. Three things need to be in...
How To Ask For Honesty

Inviting someone to be honest about their feelings can be difficult. It's important to remember that the lack of authenticity is often due to lack of awareness, inner conflict, or fear of conflict, rather than dishonesty. Offer empathy and reassurance and invite more conversation. Approach with compassion and curiosity to naturally invite more honesty. Read this practice exercise Keywords:...
Why Do I love Restorative Circles?

Duke Duchscherer shares that Restorative Circles have the ability to transform relationships. Groups may start with feelings of worry, anxiety, fear, anger, and even hatred. The dialogue process supports a shift to more ease, connection, and trust. Keywords: restorative circle connection dialogue transformation trust Duke Duchscherer