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NVC Zen

We each have the power to be the creator of our own inner experience, no matter what is going on externally. The moment you imply wrongness on others, you give power to them. In this excerpt, Aya Caspi shows that the more self-responsibility you take, the more freedom you will have.
“Obnoxious Tone” Roleplay

1. Pick a stimulus that has a tone you can't be present with 2. (In roleplay or not) Pick a neutral word (eg. Cup), and have that person say it in a way that contains that tone. Do this by having the person say it in different tones and ask them to do the tone that is closest to the stimulating tone. 3. Have them say the neutral word with the stimulating tone over and over untill there's an...
What Is In Your Power To Change?

I have been experiencing far more stress than usual for far too long now – and I know I am not alone. Most of my friends, family, and students feel similarly. Can you relate? Underneath my stress are precious needs for reassurance, inner and outer peace, and trust. This also includes a longing for political and world leaders who create policies and make decisions that reflect my values....
I Want To Connect More Than I Want To Be Right

Trainer Tip There is a place where words are born of silence, A place where the whispers of the heart arise. —Rumi What do you value most? I value connection more than anything. If I connect with people, all of us have a better chance of getting our needs met. The alternative is to try to win or be right. I used to do this with a vengeance. Years ago, I was working with a woman who was learning...
Motivation Through Joy

Trainer Tip I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me. —Anonymous Can you relate to this quote? I spent much of my life trying to avoid the guilty feelings I had when I didn’t meet other people’s expectations. As a result, I developed resentments toward many people, including myself, and I was filled with rage. Either I...
Fundamentals of NVC

Access this complete 8 session course Feeling frustrated about the stress that is present in your life and in your relationships? Then consider the following: the way you speak – and how you hear others – significantly impacts the joy and stress you experience in each of your relationships. If you are ready to get beyond the emotional triggers that goad you into responding in counterproductive...
Supporting Our Loved Ones In Living Authentically

Trainer Tip Stand up and play the melody. I am God. —Rumi So you finally figured out how to live authentically. That is, you are more likely to do things because they meet your needs than because you think other people want you to. What a relief! You might also feel some frustration because the people in your life are still trying to figure you out, rather than making decisions that meet their...
Resistance

I deeply believe that humanity’s path out of this time of growing crisis is to not only support a new way of being but to also resist the current social-political-economic system that is killing us and life on the planet. The way I see to resist, however, is with empathy and care. As I understand it, this system has been growing for a very long time as it has spread throughout the world in many...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 1

When someone is going through a hard time, it is natural to want to help. Contributing to others is one of our strongest needs, and yet our efforts to help sometimes miss the mark or even make things worse. When our attempts to help are not helpful, it is often because the receiver does not want help. The receiver simply may not be ready to fix something or look at solutions, or they might want...
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

Think of a stimulus -- something you did that triggers you to not think kindly of yourself. A time you made a "mistake." Write down what you said or did. Recall what you said to yourself or what you guessed you said to yourself when you made the “mistake.” Write down as much as you can remember. Mourn (Distinguish between mourning vs. blaming. Mourning is full attention focused on needs. It...