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Learn the Zero Step to focus on connection and affirm living in the present.

According to this article, what we do before we move into the NVC dance profoundly influences the outcome and everyone involved.  This "before" step increases the likelihood of living compassionately, and our support openness to outcome.  It can also make our NVC practice less connecting, and more evaluative.  The article addresses these points and talks about ways to move beyond the dead past, and the imagined future, to step into the the only “time and place” that both NVC operates and that the connection we so fervently want actually exists (ie. the present moment).

The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?).  This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...

Trainer tip: When you tell yourself that you have to do something, you're more likely to disconnect yourself from the needs you’re trying to meet, and also diminish the joy in your life. Instead, experiment with translating your “shoulds” and “have tos” into the need you are trying to meet.

Ask the Trainer: Dealing with judgments about you when the speaker's true unmet need is hidden.

Ask the Trainer: Get ideas to help your girlfriend accept you aren't responsible for her feelings.

Live in alignment with the core values of nonviolence through 17 guiding commitments.

Learn tools to reconnect and heal your relationship with adult children.

Jim Manske demonstrates using NVC and self-connection to create sincere, healing apologies.