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NVC Life Hacks 15

It's normal for us to keep something inside, avoiding sharing it with someone else as the risk may feel too high. Maybe they will reject me, or be offended and not speak to me again? It can be difficult to know when to share your truth and when to keep it inside. In this episode we layout some useful strategies that will help you speak your truth, while still keeping the connection. Keywords:...
Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, I feel overwhelmed thinking of writing to someone with cancer. What can I do? —B.H., London, U.K. Trainer Answer Listen to the Audio above for the complete trainer answer. Keywords: empathy expression honesty presence self empathy compassion connection healing inspiration listening love self compassion self talk relationships active listening peace Godfrey Spencer
Applying NVC to Social Change Movements

This is the Working for Transformation without Recreating the Past preview with Miki Kashtan. Want things to change in your community, but feel frustrated or don’t know what to do? Miki’s intriguing overview of how to apply the principles of NVC to social change movements may have the exact blend of inspiration and ideas you’re seeking! Keywords: expression honesty strategies connection...
Exercise For Saying "No" And Staying Connected

Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what you want to say "yes" to (regarding your needs and theirs) by saying "no"; what prevents you from saying "yes"; plus your request and how you might express...
Boundaries For Healthy Differentiation

Differentiation means you can access both autonomy and intimacy in relationships. When you're unafraid to lose yourself or be controlled, you can feel deeply connected and affected, while standing strong in yourself. Differentiation also means ability to tolerate disharmony and differences, self-soothe, offer compassion, and set boundaries. Here, we'll focus on setting boundaries with...
From Obligation To Giving from the Heart

You value generosity and you often give easily from the heart. There are those times, however, when you get snagged by a sense of obligation. You feel tense and resentful. You don't want to continue with this attitude, but how can you reconnect with the desire to give from the heart? Let’s touch on three essential elements that support giving from the heart: choice, mourning, and acceptance....
Embrace Positivity

Marshall Rosenberg used to talk about every situation with the same level of joy a child might feel. This may seem impossible at first! But when you focus on all the ways something is hard, you miss out on the full experience and remove your sense of choice. In this video, Mary shares several benefits of positivity and lots of examples along the way. Keywords: Mary Mackenzie Positivity Marshall...
Self-Righteous Anger

Trainer Tip Hating people is like burning down your house to get rid of a rat. —Harry Emerson Fosdick Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel. The same is true for resentment and anger. Don’t you just feel awful when you are filled with them? How...
Making The Evolutionary Leap

Shared story has been a way for groups to unite in opposition to a common enemy. But more divergent and virulent beliefs/stories swirl through the internet, facilitating people to polarize against one another. So notice when you're caught in a polarizing story; try shifting focus to observing your mind; somatic presence; underlying commonality; consciousness as universal need, energy, and...
NVC Mingle

NVC Mingle is a fun group exercise to practice NVC principles and create quick connections with others. Instructions: Ask everyone to walk around the room in a random pattern, with everyone chanting "Mingle, mingle, ming-GULL" (to a Latin rhythm). Blow the whistle, and tell them to form groups of 3's (or 4's, depending on group size). Name a topic (see below) for the group members to share with...