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Compassion

For both seasoned and new NVC aficionados, I think many would agree that the word ‘empathy’ typically becomes central to one’s understanding of what NVC is all about. One might even argue that empathy is itself synonymous with NVC. The beauty of this strong pairing is, of course, the wonderful capacity for one human being to listen to another human being in a manner that is likely to support...
The Value of Change

Trainer Tip Respect is love. The heart is also love—and so are you. —Swami Chidvilasananda I often hear parents express sheer hopelessness that their relationship with their teenage children will ever change. They have tried everything they can think of and still there is unrest in the family. If you are in a similar situation, consider looking at things from the teenager’s perspective. What...
Clarifying Our Needs

Trainer Tip "It all starts with self-reflection. Then you can know and empathize more profoundly with someone else." —Shirley MacLaine We often find ourselves slipping into old behaviors that we would rather change. This is because we don’t have a new plan for responding to the same old situations. Let’s say you work with someone who talks much more than you enjoy. You might try to listen to...
Sociocratic Meeting Facilitation

Access this complete 6 session course Do you ever feel frustrated about making decisions and getting things done, and long for a way to work together in connection AND achieve effective outcomes? Would you like to learn to facilitate effective and efficient meetings that nurture connection, equivalence and mutuality, while producing decisions that leave participants feeling energized and...
The Future of Love

Access this complete 6 session course If you are tired of feeling dissatisfied, frustrated and hopeless about experiencing ease and joy in your intimate relationships, this course is for you! Please join Kelly in this course to rethink and relive your perception of love so you can actually feel love, let love in and be love. In this course recording, Kelly uses music, humor, handouts and...
Empathic Listening Does Not Work Unless it is Empathic Listening

About 15 years ago I had regular interactions with an acquaintance of mine of whom I had lots of enemy images and judgements, and our interactions were not easy. Life moved on in a way that we nowadays barely meet briefly every few years, yet I still remember a piece of wisdom that he articulated then, and I only started to appreciate lately. In the midst of complex and emotionally charged...
Communicating Our Deepest Desires

Trainer Tip "In order to create a true connection, honesty is just as important as empathy." —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., Founder Nonviolent Communication If you are not happy in your relationships or in your life, the chances are good that your communication patterns are part of the problem. I have noticed, in fact, that we often try to protect ourselves rather than ask for what we really...
Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others

Access this complete 8 session course This course recording provides an experience with the language, skills and consciousness of NVC applied to mediating all types of conflict whether you are one of the people in conflict or you are supporting others in conflict, including: personal and family relationships business/organizational community The training involves three integral dimensions: a...
The Power of Empathy

Trainer Tip Don’t just do something, stand there. —Buddha People often need empathy when they are in the most pain. In these situations, we may hear their words as critical and judgmental. It is important in such moments to remember that everything they say or do is an attempt to meet their needs. When they are in pain, sometimes the methods they use to meet their needs are ineffective and...
Choosing Whom We Empathize With

Trainer Tip "The pain is the aversion. The healing magic is attention. Properly attended to, pain can answer our most crucial questions, even those we did not consciously frame." —Marilyn Ferguson I have learned that empathizing with some people does not meet my own needs for connection, rest, or joy. This may be because my own needs are so great or because I have other, more pressing needs...