Welcome to the NVC Library

This explores four types of feedback: destructive, constructive, by demonstration, and dialogue.

Jim Manske demonstrates using NVC and self-connection to create sincere, healing apologies.

Cunningham explains participatory/onlooker consciousness, plus feelings, needs, and NVC dialogues.

Exploring how to keep NVC natural and authentic without sounding mechanical or formal.

Ask the Trainer: Get guidance on working with enemy images and exercises that bring relief.

Ask the Trainer: Get ideas to help your girlfriend accept you aren't responsible for her feelings.

Fear in dealing with a neighbor's 'wastebasket talk.' Only leaving or interrupting stops the flow.

Ask the Trainer: Understanding your needs behind using protective force with children.

Ask the Trainer: Finding ease and authenticity when writing to someone with cancer.

Ask the Trainer: Can all needs be met when illness limits the capacity of one person to meet the needs of her partner?

Ask the Trainer: How do I respond to people who believe that consequences are necessary to change behavior?

Ask the Trainer: My question is about wanting to empathize more with my husband. Sometimes we connect very deeply, other times he slips back into "jackal talk..."

Ask the Trainer: Is it a good idea to use NVC on persistent guilt, anger or depression without the aid of others?

Ask the Trainer: Is there any difference between the concept or experience of "love" and that of "empathy?"

Ask the Trainer: For many years I have been using crime and punishment (reward and consequences) to discipline because it was the only thing I knew. I knew deep in my heart it was alienating me...

Ingrid guides parents to navigate everyday parenting challenges using the NVC model, such as the behavior of a frustrated child, a messy room, transition times and a child who collapses when things don't work out as she had hoped.

Explore Self-Empathy with a unique four-step process ending in gratitude.

Listen to this captivating story by Leo Sofer.  A strong blacksmith comes to the aid of a little girl when she needs protecting. But can he protect her from the harsh words she speaks to herself inside her head?

Learn how your inner relationship forms the basis for Focusing and NVC.

The wisdom which NVC is based on is as old as humanity itself. This telecourse recording draws insights from NVC’s elder siblings of Taoism, Buddhism and indigenous culture to offer new ways of approaching common NVC ‘stuck’ places.